How not to be discriminated against in foreign cafes?

Let's start with two true stories!

Yang Lan, who worked hard in a foreign country in his early years, was discriminated against by a cafe. Because at that time she was renting in a local house in England, the landlady was a typical English woman, and Yang Lan had always been accustomed to Chinese simplicity and did not pay much attention to dress, so she was criticized by the landlady many times. Once Yang Lan, who was really angry, rushed into a cafe in a rage. There were a lot of people inside at that time, but the waiter always looked at her with strange eyes, which made her very uncomfortable. It wasn't until a well-dressed and elegantly behaved old lady handed her a note that read "the bathroom is turning on your left and back." it was not until a well-dressed and elegant old lady handed her a note that she realized that she had left in such a hurry that she did not notice that her hair was already messy and even had bread crumbs next to her nose. The embarrassed Yang Lan immediately got up and went to the bathroom to tidy up. When she returned to her seat, the old lady had already left, leaving only a note: as a woman, you must be delicate. This is a woman's dignity!

Seeing here, who would have thought that Yang Lan, a shiny and well-known media man, had been repeatedly rejected for dressing up? She told us through her own experience that as much as you don't respect yourself, others don't respect you. No one has an obligation to discover your excellence through a sloppy appearance that you don't even care about.

The second true thing is that a Chinese man suffered "price discrimination" in a French coffee shop. Because she found that the same cup of coffee has three prices: 1.4 euros, 4.25 euros and 7 euros. While she was paying the bill, the waiter unexpectedly charged her the most expensive price. Accustomed to the idea that customers are God, the Chinese can't help feeling aggrieved in the face of unfair treatment. So she asked her friend next to her what was going on, and the friend told her that if you said "give me a cup of coffee" to the waiter in this store, the price would be 7 euros; if you said "please give me a cup of coffee", then the price would be 4.25 euros; and if you said, "Hello, can I have a cup of coffee, please?" Or give a stranger a hug, then the price is 1.4 euros.

I see! After hearing this, she suddenly felt ashamed. The Chinese waiter's service attitude of "coming and going" seems to have made many people lose their basic civilized etiquette. An ordinary coffee shop like France unexpectedly chose to use such a cup of "polite coffee" to remind people to be polite. French politeness and elegance are indeed deep in the bone marrow and everywhere.

In fact, when you feel that you have been treated unfairly, don't complain that God has not balanced the bowls of water, but first think about whether you have upset the balance of the world. There is a good saying: if a person is rude, he cannot stand. If you want not to be discriminated against, you must always pay attention to your words and deeds. Never take other people's services for granted. At any time, you need to pay for your actions.

Having said so much, how not to be discriminated against in foreign cafes?

1. Pay attention to your own dress, speech and behavior

(1) clothing

In Europe's high-end restaurants and cafes, untidy clothes are not allowed, which is seen by some casual Chinese as a kind of restraint. However, the times are changing and we are also making progress. Coffee culture, as an imported product, attracts people precisely because of its culture and etiquette, which is also worthy of our study and reflection.

Although going to a cafe is not as formal as a high-end western restaurant, there is no need for a suit, but the basic clothing etiquette also needs to be paid attention to. What you should pay attention to when going to a coffee shop is to avoid wearing casual clothes as much as possible. You can wear appropriate casual clothes, formal clothes or even casual clothes, while keeping your clothes clean and tidy to avoid sloppiness. Because the decency and generosity of clothes can not only increase your confidence, but also show respect for others.

(2) dressing up

The cafe is a formal place of entertainment and leisure, and if you go in dishevelled, you will be rejected. At any time, wearing a little makeup can not only make you look more energetic, but also respect the performance of others. Of course, this does not mean that you have to wear makeup first to have a cup of coffee, but that elegance should be a way of life, a habit we develop unconsciously, and a life attitude we should have.

(3) use civilized and polite language

As a collection of specific culture, coffee is an important element in western culture. Therefore, drinking coffee in foreign coffee shops should fully respect the different requirements of different coffee shops. Use civilized language when ordering coffee or talking to others, while keeping your voice as low as possible so as not to disturb other people's privacy. Of course, it is not allowed to harass or even insult the waiter for no reason. The example in the previous article tells us that other people's attitude towards you is your best mirror, and all your words and deeds represent your whole self-cultivation and quality.

(4) do not play games such as cards or mahjong with your partner while drinking coffee

Cafes attract people because they sell not only coffee, but also a quality and a culture. Cafes can provide leisure and entertainment, but after all, it is also a public place, so pay special attention not to disturb other people's leisure time. Although it is normal to play cards in Chinese coffee shops, coffee as a representative of Western culture, foreigners will never tolerate such contempt for coffee culture. And playing cards is bound to be noisy, which will also affect other people's enjoyment of coffee. Therefore, never play cards or mahjong games with your companions while drinking coffee, but you can read the impurity newspapers at hand, chat with your companions, listen to music, and so on.

2. Learn the basic etiquette of drinking coffee

(1) the use of coffee spoons

Coffee usually needs to be drunk while it is hot, but the freshly brewed coffee is generally very hot, and it will look uncivilized to cool it with your mouth. at this time, you can use a coffee spoon to stir the coffee to cool it slightly before drinking.

However, it is very indecent to drink coffee one spoon after another with a coffee spoon, and it is also impolite to pick up the plate or hold the bottom of the cup to drink coffee. Unless you drink coffee standing up, you can pick up the plate and avoid walking around with the cup, otherwise it doesn't feel good. When drinking, you should also pay attention to take out the coffee spoon and put it on the plate in case you accidentally spill over.

(2) avoid alternating dim sum and coffee.

Whether it's going to a cafe to talk about work or recreation, most of the time coffee will be accompanied by some snacks, which can prevent the damage to human health caused by drinking coffee on an empty stomach. However, you must not hold the coffee cup in one hand and the snack in the other, which makes people feel very bad. Of course, you should avoid eating and drinking alternately, naturally put down the snack when drinking coffee, and don't pick up the coffee cup when you eat snack.

Source: encyclopedia of Red Wine (Wen / Luo Yanfen)